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"And yet, despite Michelle's success and popularity, I continued to sense an undercurrent of tension in her, subtle but constant, like the faint thrum of a hidden machine. It was as if, confined as we were within the walls of the White House, all her previous sources of frustration became more concentrated, more vivid, whether it was my round the clock absorption with work, or the way politics exposed our family to scrutiny and attacks, or the tendency of even friends and family members to treat her role as secondary in importance."

“ … lying next to Michelle in the dark, I'd think about those days when everything between us felt lighter, when her smile was more constant and our love less encumbered, and my heart would suddenly tighten at the thought that those days might not return."

— Former President Barack Obama writes in his third memoir A Promised Land about the toll politics, especially during his administration, took on his marriage to Michelle Obama, reports CNN. The former first lady expressed being frustrated with her husband’s work schedule when he was an Illinois senator in her memoir Becoming. Unsurprisingly, being President of the United States only exacerbated this dynamic in their marriage. But it’s the Obamas’ openness within reason about the struggles in their marriage that makes them so relatable. In A Promised Land, which is 768 pages and is due November 17, Barack Obama also confronts how his historic election in 2008 pushed the evolution of the Republican Party. He writes, “Through Palin, it seemed as if the dark spirits that had long been lurking on the edges of the modern Republican Party -- xenophobia, anti intellectualism, paranoid conspiracy theories, an antipathy toward Black and brown folks -- were finding their way to center stage.” Read more at CNN.