Single during the holidays? Who cares! Why, exactly, is there so much pressure to be in a relationship during the holidays? Around the holidays you will almost always receive the, “When are you going to settle down?” and “When are you going to have a baby?” questions. I blame the weather. I blame the media. I blame Christmas. I blame New Year’s Eve, and I blame my uterus. Yes, I said my uterus. In L.A. we have no snow and it rarely rains, but as soon as those temperatures drop just a wee bit, then all of the thirstiness of being alone surfaces in everyone. All of a sudden everyone on my Twitter timeline, Facebook newsfeed, and Instagram feed is posting about finding love and cuddle weather! During the summer it was all, shots, shots, shots, dancing, partying, and clubbing, but as soon as the weather changed so did everyone’s outlook on love.
It has been scientifically proven that the weather does affect our moods and there is a disorder associated with the seasons, SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), a depressive disorder in which a person’s depressive state is connected to specific seasons. Also the winter blues can make you feel sad, lonely, or needy, and make you feel as if you need someone to fill that emptiness you are experiencing. Cold weather makes us want to snuggle, I get it, but there is a huge difference between being lonely and spending time alone. Instead of focusing on not having someone to cuddle with during the cold, use this time to focus on your needs or the needs of those around you. Pick up extra work hours, donate your time to charity, create a vision board, learn how to cook, or fly your sad ass to Jamaica and find some happiness. Whatever you choose to do just know that your mate will come when you are fulfilled within yourself, then the universe will casually bring you your cuddle buddy.
Christmas commercials can make you feel like a lonely loser, or am I the only person in the world who feels that way? Why is everyone getting engaged for goodness sakes?! Does every guy have to “Go to Jared’s” every friggin’ December, or can they just roll out to Target and buy me a new vacuum cleaner and some T-shirts? Why in tarnation do we all have to get engaged for Christmas?! Can we really just put an end to this and when did me being so awesome that you want to marry me become equivalent with giving me a gift for Christmas? Marriage can be awesome, and who the hell doesn’t like sparkly diamonds, am I right? As for me I’d really love a new vacuum, some T-shirts, and a Barnes & Noble gift card with a never-ending balance, because books, for me, are like gold. And although I am single and in all likelihood will be purchasing these things for myself … if you’re reading this and want to send gifts, I’ll take them … joking, but serious.