As of about a week ago, Nick and I are officially homeowners. Yay! Buying our own place was cool and exciting and also possibly the most stressful thing Iâ€™ve ever done. Here are 10 things I learned along the way, that I wish someone had told me before we even startedâ€¦
1. Be flexible about your dealbreakers. This sounds like an oxymoron right? Dealbreakers are, by definition, unflexible. But the thing I learned while househunting is that most people make a lofty list of â€œmust havesâ€ and â€œdealbreakersâ€ for their future home, and then they actually start the househunting process, and suddenly those lists feel arbitrary, unrealistic, and more confusing than anything. Donâ€™t feel like you have to settle for a run-down shack or something, but do be open to places that donâ€™t match up with your preconceived notions of your â€œperfect house.â€ Looking at a bunch of different houses is going to clarify whatâ€™s actually important to you, which might render your dealbreaker lists irrelevant. You know how a lot of women spend years dating tall men, saying, â€œI would never be attracted to a short guy,â€ then end up meeting their soulmate, who just happens to be 5â€™2â€³? Itâ€™s like that.
2. Know that you wonâ€™t find the perfect house, but you will find the perfect houseÂ for you.Â This was something my best friend told me when I started getting really frustrated and nitpicky about the houses we were seeing. I was losing hope that the perfect house was out there, and called her in a panic. â€œThere is no such thing as the perfect house,â€ she said, â€œbut there is a house out there thatâ€™s perfect for you.â€ This is why letting go of some of your dealbreakers is essential: it helps you reassess the idea of perfection and focus more on the overall feel of the house and if youâ€™ll be happy living there.