I was very fortunate to have my father be an active part of my life. One of the most important things he ever taught me was that I was a queen, and should always conduct myself as such. My parents taught me to be book and street smart, kind, polite, well-spoken—you know, the usual royal preparations. I’ve lived my life with my invisible crown propped firmly on my head, and I’m not alone. I have plenty of queen friends who have been raised similarly. However, it seems that many of my male peers have either let their crowns slip or have never been taught to balance them on their heads.
It is my belief that everyone has a crown to wear. We are all born with the ability to conduct ourselves as queens and kings. It simply takes one to notice it and grasp it. Now when I use the terms ‘king’ and ‘queen’, I’m obviously not referring to the rulers of lands. I am talking about those who have self-love and radiate that positivity to others, those who recognize their gifts and share that preciousness with their peers, those who hold themselves as someone worthy of respect and give that honors to others and those that carry themselves with a quiet confidence.
It is difficult to walk around as a queen and see that so many of my potential kings have not recognized who they are. My friends and I discuss this lack of sovereign counterparts. How do you grow up as a queen in a land where scarce are kings?
This is not to say that they don’t exist. There are men out there who are every bit as kingly as they should be. I was lucky enough to find one. The issue is that so many more girls are raised as princesses and queens and little boys are never told that they too get to be a part of this royal family. Many of them don’t recognize their excellence and reach for that standard. Young men should be taught from a young age that they are little kings in training who have to learn to grasp their crowns. This way, when they’re older, they will find their queen and together, they help each other to grow.
So to all: You were born to be kings and queens; accept your crowns!
(Photo credit: Shutterstock)