Last night, I had an experience that I believe most Black men should treat themselves to. I was able to meet up with a group of 10 other Black men (most of whom I’ve never met before) and sit down to just talk. We discussed life, love, the challenges we face as Black males, and what it means to be a man in modern society. Although we all come from different backgrounds, have varying levels of education, different careers, and different relationship statuses, we all connected in an amazing way. This wasn’t some stuffy forum about over-intellectualizing our community’s problems to selfishly promote our own individual intelligence – this was a fun-ass group conversation where we discussed everything we LOVE talking about (i.e. why “back-shots” is the greatest position known to mankind), but also discussed things we normally avoid talking about socially (i.e. our fear of letting our families down).
Whenever you get a lot of different personalities in one room, it’s expected that everyone will have a unique view on certain topics, but it was very interesting that there was one point we all agreed on, despite our differences: As men, we NEED to feel NEEDED by our women.
When I say NEEDED, I don’t
mean simple appreciation.
When I say NEEDED, I don’t mean sweet gratitude.
When I say NEEDED, I don’t mean just being wanted.
Although this point may transcend race and/or socioeconomics, it’s clear that Black men need to feel needed by Black women.