When it comes to approaching men, most women don’t know what the hell they are doing – especially the FIRST few times. Now of course there are some exceptions, but for the most part, when a woman decides to go up to a man with the intention of eventually trading contact information, many women look like our grandparents trying to play Call of Duty on Xbox. And to make matters worse, EVERYONE involved is cognizant of how awkward and uncomfortable the moment is, which typically leads to women announcing that they will NEVER approach a man again because they don’t want to look desperate (again). But here’s the truth ladies: Most MEN sucked (and hell, some STILL do) at kicking game when WE first started too, and we DEFINITELY didn’t know what the hell we were doing. What most women need to learn is one very simple lesson that all men realize at a young age: When it comes to working on your approach, PRACTICE makes perfect.
I find it absolutely HILARIOUS that women can go the first 20+ years of their lives without EVER having to proactively start a conversation, then after trying it the first time, they will determine that THEY can’t do it and then make a BS observation like “men don’t like when women approach them!” Speaking as a man, that’s absolute BULLSHIT. We DO like when attractive women walk up to us and initiate – but, just like any woman, we are turned off by awkward and uncomfortable interactions.
So yes ladies, there’s a GOOD chance that the first time you tried to approach a man you looked desperate, thirsty and possibly even CRAZY as all hell – but that’s NOT a reason to STOP approaching men because YOU are NOT flawed, you just haven’t found your groove yet.
And that’s where I want to help you out today.
Ladies, I want to speak to you all today as a man who has learned the ins-and-outs of what works for me based on an EXTENSIVE history of trial and error and pass on some helpful hints that should work for you and keep you away from becoming disenchanted with propositioning someone.
First: Being Turned Down Does Not = Failure
The first thing I learned when I was young was that some women I would meet actually WOULD have boyfriends, or they would NOT be interested in meeting anyone at that moment, or they may just not find me personally attractive. But that’s NOT a failure. Failing is when the person is interested in you, and you blow it – which brings me to my second point…
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