The other day, I found myself in an annoying-ass debate that I have with far too many women, far too frequently. Ever since I wrote my book The Myth of the Multiple Orgasm, in which I explained how multiple-orgasmic sex can be achieved, women have constantly asked me how they can incorporate some of the sex tips into their actual relationships. My reply has been the same since I first released the book almost a year ago: “Just tell him!” It’s usually at that point in the conversation that the woman I’m talking to states how unfeasible that advice is because “men HATE to be told what to do in bed,” which is complete and utter BS.
Ladies, I want to be the FIRST man to tell you that men LOVE to be told how exactly to please you. But HOW you communicate that message is just as, if not MORE, important than what you actually say.Â
When it comes to sexually satisfying his woman, every man wants to be remembered as the G.O.A.T. (Greatest of All Time), which can be chalked up to a weird concoction of love and ego. Now, any man with a decent amount of sexual experience can attest to the fact that learning a woman’s body is probably the most important step towards trying to please her. I’ve always said that touching a woman’s body is like executing a “fatality” in Mortal Kombat — every character requires pushing a different set of buttons to pull it off — just like every woman requires different sets of buttons to be pushed to turn her on. Men know this, so why in the hell wouldn’t we want to hear how to please a woman directly from her own mouth?!
Well, the answer to that question is simply this: When some women attempt to tell their man how to please them, they actually end up INSULTING him more than MOTIVATING him. That will easily result in massive bruising to his ego, which will result in him physically withdrawing from her. So ladies, let me give you the one trick on how to avoid crushing a man’s spirit when you simply want to help him learn your body better: Always frame the conversation as BUILDING, as opposed to FIXING.