If we can be honest with ourselves, we’ve all gone through heartbreak at some point in our lives. After you experience this earth-shattering emotional pain, you either want to give up on ever finding true love and/or treat your ex’s clothes like the Cavalier fans treated LeBron James’ jersey after “The Decision.” You will find yourself having to make some very tough decisions. Yet oddly enough, we never think of being bitter or gaining closure as choices – when that’s exactly what they are.
Now look, I don’t wanna be the pushy douche bag who tries to tell you how to feel, and judges your immediate emotions as wholly irrelevant and ridiculous because that’s completely unfair. If you’ve broken up with someone because they did you wrong (i.e. cheated on you), then you are more than entitled to be emotional and have moments in which you feel sad, weak, disappointed, and/or depressed. If you’ve broken up with someone because your relationship had to come to a mutually-agreed upon end for reasons outside of your control (i.e. moving away for work or school), then it’s your right to feel pessimistic and loathe love. Bitterness is a very natural human emotion, but after a point you have a choice whether you want to remain bitter, or whether you want to heal. And believe me, it’s in your best interest to take the long, hard road of recovery.