Last week, â€œLove & Hip-Hopâ€ co-star K. Michelle mentioned in a Bossip interview that when it comes to dating, “At this point, I really do prefer white men.” Itâ€™s no surprise K. Michelle is up for interracial dating as sheâ€™s been linked to white boy Olympic swimmer Ryan LochteÂ (they deny dating).
But the sentiment stuck out not because K. Michelle said it, but because of how often Iâ€™ve been hearing it, or something similar, among the Black women circles in which I travel or stumble upon. I wondered if the women touting their desire for white meat were aware exactly of what they are really sayingâ€”or notâ€”Â when they discuss how they â€œpreferâ€ a particular race of men, implicitly over another.
So Iâ€™m clear, thereâ€™s nothing wrong with having preferences, and certainly nothing wrong with liking white guys or any other color guys. And do I appreciate that unlike so many conversations on interracial dating, K. Michelleâ€™s didnâ€™t devolve in an opportunity to throw another group of men under the bus to justify what she â€œprefers.â€ Still, I find it troubling that K. Michelle and women like her tout a preference for a trait so general that it tells you little to nothing about the actual subject. Is it white swimmers that she likes? White junkies? White republicans? White hipsters? Or is it just the â€œWhiteâ€ in whatever form it comes that she â€œprefersâ€?
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