“No I wouldn’t. In the back of my mind I would always be thinking that he is cheating because he has to cure that craving for a man. To me there is no security in that relationship,” said Yolanda J. in Memphis.
“I wouldn’t because to me there [are] too many opportunities for him to cheat since he’s bisexual. I don’t have time for a man who is straddling the fence with his sexuality,” stated Erica M. in Detroit.
We have all heard about the down low brother. The man who “Jones’” it up with another man but keeps it a secret. The same man who will sleep with another man and then proclaim he isn’t gay or bisexual. Yes, those down low brothers. Because of the image men of this type have portrayed, we attach lies, deceit, and HIV infection to all bisexual men, not just those on the DL.
A woman has the right to know if she is dealing with a man who sleeps with other men, so she can make informed decisions for her heart, health, and all-around well-being. The women who were open to dating a bisexual man stated just this reason alone. They would rather know beforehand than to find out the hard way, like becoming infected with a disease.
One woman stated, “No. I am not ‘sexually evolved’ enough to have a sexual or romantic relationship with a bisexual man. While I have no judgment of LGBT love, I wouldn’t accept it or any form of it in my relationship, past or present, before me or not. This doesn’t mean I want someone to lie about their bisexuality.”
In the end we all have our choices! To me, it all boils down to being honest with yourself and being honest and decent with someone else. Then again, sometimes we can make ourselves believe our own lies.
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