Think of the best first date you ever went on.
Got it? Okay, what did you do immediately afterwards?
If youâ€™re like some womenÂ Iâ€™ve been out with, you called up your best friend and gushed all about the date. You even posted a not-so-subtle status update on Facebook. Something along the lines of, â€œJust had an AMAZING night!â€
Now, hereâ€™s my nextâ€”and more importantâ€”question:
Before you gushed to your best friend, before you flaunted your euphoria all over Facebook, did you ever stop to consider how your date might have felt about that â€œamazingâ€ night?
One scenario I encounter frequently on dating advice sites is the woman who goes on a fabulous first date, only to find herself confused when she never hears from that guy again. So, sheâ€™s left to wonder â€¦ What happened?
â€œThe date went so well. We had so much fun and clicked so amazingly. He was hot and charming and intelligent. I was hot and charming and intelligent. He couldnâ€™t take his eyes off me the whole night Soâ€¦ why didnâ€™t he call again?!â€
Invariably, sympathizers chime in that the guy is obviously a douchebag, a player. Or, if theyâ€™re being forgiving, they suggest perhaps he just got out of a serious relationship and realized that heâ€™s not ready to date.
These answers generally drive the point across: For whatever reason, he lost interest. And she just needs to move on.
Makes sense, right?
Iâ€™m not sure I agree.
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