Courtesy of The Grio
â€œI am invisible, understand, simply because people refuse to see me. Like the bodiless heads you see sometimes in circus sideshows, it is as though I have been surrounded by mirrors of hard, distorting glass. When they approach me they see only my surroundings, themselves or figments of their imagination, indeed, everything and anything except me.â€Â â€• Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man
As a black lesbian who also heads Equality Florida, the state LGBT advocacy group, I initially wasnâ€™t going to write about the accusations that our lieutenant governor Jennifer Carroll was caught in her office having sex with a female subordinate.
The tabloid-ready scandal involving a married, mother of three who is an anti-gay conservative naturally piques the imagination of our voyeur culture. But weâ€™ve collectively feasted on right-wing sexual hypocrisy for so long that my care factor was half the size of the Higgs Boson God Particle. In fact, as I scrolled past the story in my email queue, my first reaction was â€œOh thatâ€™s right. Florida has a lieutenant governor.â€
There is no way for Carrollâ€™s story to have a good ending. Either her accuser is using homophobia as a political weapon, or the lieutenant governor is abusing her power with a subordinate, or she is living a huge, sad and complicated lie.
I was content to steer clear of commenting, but then the Lt. governor went on TV and spewed her rebuttal: â€œBlack women who look like me donâ€™t engage in relationships like that.â€
Iâ€™m not sure what kind of extensive research she has done to come to that conclusion about black lesbians but perhaps sheâ€™ll publish her findings.