3. â€œI donâ€™t want to hurt you.â€ On Monday mornings, I donâ€™t want to go to work. But that doesnâ€™t mean Iâ€™m not. Just because a man says he doesnâ€™t want to hurt you, it doesnâ€™t mean heâ€™s not hurting you. Nor does this mean he will stop doing the things that hurt you. So the next time he says, â€œI donâ€™t want to hurt you,â€ calmly tell him he is and then clearly identify what hurts and outline what will happen if it continues.
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