If you regularly subscribe to my shenanigans on my personal site Goddess IntellectÂ you know the one thing I loathe are too many rules. Iâ€™m the last person to tell you when to jump the broom, sleep with the enemy or use the bathroom; itâ€™s mainly because Iâ€™m too busy trying to figure out my own journey thank you very much. Despite my free as a bird demeanor my adulthood leaves me no choice but to abide by some rules, just a tiny bit. Letâ€™s be real a life without some structure leaves us vulnerable to manipulation and unnecessary conflicts.
Yâ€™all already know how I feel about fights in relationships. Rather than breathe hot sweet tart breath into my manâ€™s face spitting vile language in an ungodly tone or snapping at every attempt of an apology Iâ€™d rather be naked. Iâ€™d rather have our bodies connected laying out tension, smoothing out kinks, rebuilding a rhythm than argue. You can say I avoid conflict in relationships, I will admit that.
Letâ€™s kiss and make up. But the reality is that if a conflict is indeed a reoccurring one or one that requires more than just a bump and grind solution then sex wonâ€™t solve a damn thing. I wouldnâ€™t lie to you now.
I created a 3 fight rule that I abide by, not only in romantic relationships but in all relationships. I created it subconsciously because I have a nasty habit of giving folks more chances than I should. The pushover look doesnâ€™t really compliment my skin tone or theses new shoes I bought so the 3 fight rule is a good look.
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