If you regularly subscribe to my shenanigans on my personal site Goddess Intellect you know the one thing I loathe are too many rules. I’m the last person to tell you when to jump the broom, sleep with the enemy or use the bathroom; it’s mainly because I’m too busy trying to figure out my own journey thank you very much. Despite my free as a bird demeanor my adulthood leaves me no choice but to abide by some rules, just a tiny bit. Let’s be real a life without some structure leaves us vulnerable to manipulation and unnecessary conflicts.
Y’all already know how I feel about fights in relationships. Rather than breathe hot sweet tart breath into my man’s face spitting vile language in an ungodly tone or snapping at every attempt of an apology I’d rather be naked. I’d rather have our bodies connected laying out tension, smoothing out kinks, rebuilding a rhythm than argue. You can say I avoid conflict in relationships, I will admit that.
Let’s kiss and make up. But the reality is that if a conflict is indeed a reoccurring one or one that requires more than just a bump and grind solution then sex won’t solve a damn thing. I wouldn’t lie to you now.
I created a 3 fight rule that I abide by, not only in romantic relationships but in all relationships. I created it subconsciously because I have a nasty habit of giving folks more chances than I should. The pushover look doesn’t really compliment my skin tone or theses new shoes I bought so the 3 fight rule is a good look.
[Couple arguing image via Shutterstock]