Dear Gay Best Friend,
I really need your help before I up and walk away from my man. Iâ€™ve been dating this one guy for 15 months and Iâ€™m tired of feeling hurt and left out. He can come to my place and hang out with me, but I canâ€™t go to his place because he doesnâ€™t want to cause any problems with his kidâ€™s mom. She wants him back, but he doesnâ€™t want her because of what she did and what she doesnâ€™t want to do.
I do love him, but Iâ€™m at the end of trying to make this relationship work by myself. If youâ€™re in a relationship and itâ€™s going good, then whatâ€™s wrong with me meeting his family? He sees his mother every day. His brothers live out of town, and his father he doesnâ€™t care too much for him. Heâ€™s been talking about getting marry and buying a house for us because he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and I want the same. But, what I donâ€™t understand is why would you want to marry someone that you wonâ€™t let me meet your family? Heâ€™s met mine and I never been to his place because he doesnâ€™t want his kids mother to start anything with me. Iâ€™m grown and can handle myself.
He told me last week that he let his mother move in with him, and it hurt me because Iâ€™ve never been to his place nor met his mother. Am I wrong for telling him that itâ€™s not right for her to move in when I have never been there or met her? Now, he wants me to come over, but I wonâ€™t go because heâ€™s had plenty of time for me to meet her and see his place. I am a good woman to him. Iâ€™ve done more than my fair share to keep to us going. Iâ€™ve never asked him for money or to pay my bills. Iâ€™ve helped him a lot because he doesnâ€™t have much money. I feel like Iâ€™ve been the man and heâ€™s the woman. I know that I have been to damn good to him and more understanding to him and his problems.
Where do I fit in? Was I wrong for telling him that his mother will always be there, but I am a guarantee! Mommaâ€™s boy needs to get a back bone and do whatâ€™s right because I will walk out for good! Iâ€™m hurting over this. â€“ Confused By Mommaâ€™s Boy
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