He was jailed on assault and weapons charges. The women, one of whom suffered a fractured skull, a broken arm, and remains hospitalized, were charged with criminal trespassing, menacing and disorderly conduct.
I get the argument that heâ€™s a man who viciously beat two women, persons of the smaller, physically weaker sex. Every part of my woman-power mantra wants me to shout, â€œHe is wrong! Wrong! Wrong!â€ But everything in my common sense, asks, â€œWhat did you want that man to do?â€
If anyoneâ€” male or femaleâ€” has the cajones (Iâ€™m saying, she told him to â€˜suck her d***!â€™) to threaten someone, slap them, and then hop a counter to get at them, you get whatever it is they feel like giving back that day. You canâ€™t be an instigator of violence, then dictate how someone responds to your violence. Life isnâ€™t fair. Fighting isnâ€™t either.
Did he go overboard? Perhaps. Some have blamed his â€œextremeâ€ reaction on the skewed values and defense mechanisms he picked up while spending his twenties locked up. Could be. Still, I, a product of the suburbs whoâ€™s never seen the inside of jail cell, canâ€™t say with any conviction that I would not have done the same exact thing.
Maybe that means I need anger management. Maybe Rayon McIntosh needs some too. But what he doesnâ€™t need in his life right now? To be locked up for self-defense.
Demetria L. Lucas is the author of â€œA Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Lifeâ€ (Atria) in stores now. Follow her on Twitter at @abelleinbk and check outÂ abelleinbrooklyn.com.