Take Amber Rose whose lesbian affairs are publicly documented and celebrated. The fact that she was previously involved with a woman before dating Kanye West and Wiz Khalifa wasn’t a deterrent to men but worked like an aphrodisiac making her all the more desirable. Nicki Minaj and Rihanna’s rumored girl-on-girl escapades only seem to garner more attention for the pop stars. Katy Perry rose to fame with her hit “I Kissed a Girl” and then married a man without anyone blinking an eye. Songs like Katy’s, Rihanna’s “Te Amo” and Ray Lavender’s “My Girl Got a Girlfriend,” demonstrate that bisexuality, when embraced by women, is not merely accepted but encouraged.
Bisexual men, on the other hand, are rejected by most women and criticized by most men. While no one would speculate on what Amber’s “true” sexual preference is, for example, bisexual men are almost always assumed to be 100% gay—and in denial. Of course, homo-thugs who are “in the closet” and dating women while suppressing their true desires for men need not apply. But what about men who love women, are completely attracted to women, want to commit to and build a family with a woman but may occasionally mess around with other men? Are they completely off limits? And if so, why doesn’t the same thinking apply to bisexual women?
The fact is that a person that is attracted to men AND women could still be a suitable mate and certainly, a skilled lover but most of us can’t get past the idea that our man has bedded another man in the past. Is it because we view men as less masculine when they’ve been romantically involved with other men? Is it because we assume they’re more likely to step outside the relationship? The explanations are varied.