In fact, in high school, it was viewed as a way to hook up with guys and keep your virginity, an ideal alternative to engaging in intercourse. Makes sense, then, why many of them engage in it without the feeling of guilt, shame or embarrassment that a number of black women carry.
Of course, some women just don’t like the act in and of itself without the social implications of it. But it’s interesting to see how stigmas, name-calling and cultural hang-ups have an impact on what we do in the privacy of our own bedrooms.
Why is oral sex so weighted for black women? Do you think stigmas play a role in how we view and exercise our sexuality? Men, have you ever dealt with a woman who wouldn’t give head because she thought it was “dirty” or for whores? Soundoff!
Jessica C. Andrews is a writer living in Brooklyn and the co-founder of GlamazonsBlog.com.